Swallow Your Pride
by Deborah Brown-Volkman, contributing columnist

Is there a goal you are trying to reach, but do not know how to make it happen? Is there a transition you would like to complete, but are unsure of the pathway to get there? Is there a change you want to make, but unanswered questions are getting in your way?

Well, you are not alone.

As human beings, in most instances, we are loners. We prefer to do things our way, ourselves. As a result, we handle most of our career difficulties alone. Maybe it's because we are embarrassed or believe we are weak. Usually we tackle tough situations without asking for help until we realize that going it alone is unproductive. Then, we request assistance.

But, why does it have to take this long? You can reach your career goals quicker if you'd like. How? By swallowing your pride. (Yes, this is a good thing.)

So, How Can Swallowing Your Pride Help You Get What You Want In Your Career? Here's A Few Ways:

1. It Will Give You Strength

Once you are not afraid to be vulnerable, and let
people know that you require assistance, your true self
can emerge. You can be you, and this is empowering. You
can let people in and they can let you in too. (You
will bond and form a connection.) It takes courage to
say "I need help." You have the strength, I know you
do.

2. It Will Give You Focus

Once you know what you don't want, you can concentrate
on what you do want. Ask yourself "What result do I
really want?" and "How can I get there?" Don't worry
about why it won't turn out the way you want. Focus on
why it will.

3. It Will Give You Purpose

Once you are focused, write down what you want. Look at
it everyday. This will inspire you and give you a
reason to jump out of bed everyday. Purpose is what
most people crave. We are empty and we want something
to fill us up. It's not the coffee, cigarettes, or
piece of pie that will make you feel better. Internal
drive is what's missing.

4. It Will Get You Into Action

Once the truth is out that you need help, you do not
have to hide it anymore. You can concentrate on
tackling the problem at hand. You can put a plan
together. You can start making phone calls and sending
e-mail requesting what you need to solve your career
dilemma. You can address what is not working in your
career.

5. It Will Help You Reach Your Goal

Once you start moving forward, the results will appear. Consistent action over time (with others) is how we reach our goals. Yes, reaching your goals alone may be safer, but an endeavor that will take more time and effort in the long run. There are people out there who want to help you succeed. All you have to do is ask.

So what do you say? You only have one life to live so
it might as well be a life you love.
 

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Deborah Brown is a noted Career and Mentor Coach that shows Entrepreneurs, Executives, Professionals, and Coaches how to transition into careers they love, excel in the careers they have now, start their own businesses, and find time for themselves. She is the author of the "21-Day Career Empowerment" program. This 21-day e-mail program gives participants the insight, clarity, and knowledge to either choose their current position or their next career To Learn More Visit: http://www.surpassyourdreams.com , send an e-mail to info@surpassyourdreams.com or call (516) 432-2440.