You've Already Faced Your Fears
by Deborah Brown-Volkman, contributing columnist

Remember when you said to yourself that if you ever lost your job, you wouldn't know what to do? Well guess what, the worst has happened for many of you, and you are managing. Yes, your future is unknown, and a bit scary, but you have learned that if you can accept your situation and deal with it, you can handle anything that comes your way.

Since what you feared has occurred, there is nothing left to fear anymore. All those conversations you had with yourself when you were working about wanting to find a career you would love can now be fulfilled. Yes, you may be wondering how you can pay the bills if you pursue the career you've always wanted, but you might as explore your options. What else is there to do?

So How Can You Make Unemployment The Best Thing That Ever Happened To You?

1. Realize That You Are More That Your Career

What we do for a living gives us the ability to find
out who we are. Through our careers we may discover
our talents and our gifts. We can find our strengths
and identify our weaknesses. We learn to interact with
people, and discover how to motivate and inspire them
to be their best. We also make money that allows us to
create a life filled with comfort and beauty. This is
the good news. The bad news is we spend so much time
at work learning these things that we might allow our
careers to define who we are. How is your love life?
Your friendships? I bet they are in better shape now
than when you were working. I am not telling you to
stay unemployed forever. I am saying that you should
realize that there are other pieces and people in your
life that count too.

2. Realize That On The Other Side Is Inspiration

Right now is the hardest part. You are working hard and
not getting results. And, you are a person who is used
to seeing results. One the other side of discouragement
and frustration is inspiration. So, how do you get
inspired? You put your disappointments behind you
because you realize how much they are holding you back.
You write down your vision on a piece of paper, and you
look at it every day. Then, you put a plan in place to
get it. And, you don't ever give up.

3. Realize That It Was Time For A Change Anyway

How much time did you spend thinking about making a
change in your career before you were let go? Months?
Years? This is your opportunity to go after what you
want. I know it's hard because the future is unknown
and you do not know when it will improve. Maybe not
knowing is a blessing. How about using the uncertainty
to your advantage? If you do not know any better, then
you can't make a mistake.

4. Realize That The Only Reasons Are The Ones You Tell
Yourself

Right now it may seem like you are battling the
economy, but the truth is you are battling yourself.
You are battling the circumstances that you have
accepted as the reasons that you can't find a job.
If you keep talking yourself out of the possibilities,
you will never get anywhere. Instead of accepting
reasons for failure, accept reasons for success.

5. Realize That You Cannot Achieve What You Want Alone

Asking for help is not a bad thing. Think about it this
way, if someone came to you and asked for your help,
you would gladly help them. Wouldn't you? So why
wouldn't you let the people in your life do the same
for you? Is your pride or embarrassment keeping you
from making a request for assistance? Let people
contribute to you. You would be surprised how many
people would like to make a difference in your life.

So what do you say? You only have one life to live so it might as well be a life you love!





 

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Deborah Brown is a noted Career and Mentor Coach that shows Entrepreneurs, Executives, Professionals, and Coaches how to transition into careers they love, excel in the careers they have now, start their own businesses, and find time for themselves. She is the author of the "21-Day Career Empowerment" program. This 21-day e-mail program gives participants the insight, clarity, and knowledge to either choose their current position or their next career To Learn More Visit: http://www.surpassyourdreams.com , send an e-mail to info@surpassyourdreams.com or call (516) 432-2440.